Pet Loss & Healing

Pet loss can be as intense as losing a spouse, close friend or relative.

Several factors will contribute to how one's journey progresses. For many, their pet IS their significant other, OR their child. We have unique bonds with our pets, especially given that they love us unconditionally.

So profound is this loss, that the need for support to help one navigate this journey can be crucial in their healing.

My journey began a year ago...

An unexpected turn of events sent our family into a grief spiral - 

trying to make sense of things - putting the pieces together was impossible in the beginning. Slowly, with support, we are able to navigate our way through our day without our precious Chloe.

We all experience the following to some degree after losing our pet. 

There could be:

Loss of Routine

Loss of Purpose

Loss of Identity

Regret - what I should/could have done

Guilt - I didn't act soon enough

OR Did I choose the right time for euthanasia? 

There will be a host of emotions - grief will show up in unexpected ways, and at different times.  We are afraid we will forget the precious details of our pet, and getting through that first year experiencing all the "firsts" without them can be heart-wrenching. 

It will take time as you get used to your new "normal." 

Healing is a process, and it is different for each individual.

I have found journaling to be so cathartic during this time. Recording the events, putting emotions down on paper, planning, noting the special things about your pet can help. 

Attending support groups is invaluable - sharing and learning from others is so comforting.

Setting up a memorial, or outdoor garden dedicated to you pet can be ways to help you feel "close" to them. Writing letters to them, and lighting a candle for them each night, or on their anniversary can help us stay connected as well.

Taking your time is crucial - there is NO timetable with the grieving process!

Be kind to yourself!

Honoring your grief IS Honoring your pet!

I highly recommend the following:

Support Groups: Lap of Love 

offers several groups, as well as individual support as you navigate this journey and healing process.

Books:

Healing After Loss 

by Martha Hickman is a daily devotional style book designed to help honor your grief throughout the year. Thought-provoking snippets to encourage and heal.

My Pet Remembrance Journal 

by Enid Traisman leads you with thought provoking questions.  

While you are encouraged to ponder your thoughts & emotions spanning your pet's life to record, she also gives us pages to add photos, as well as writing a good bye letter.